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ABOUT SHE’S NOT THE MAN I MARRIED She’s Not the Man I Married is a fascinating consideration of the ways in which relationships are gendered, how gender limits us in the ways we love, and how we cope – or don’t – with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships. It will be published by Seal Press in March 2007. CHAD DORAN IS A CONSERVATIVE. Chad Doran is a conservative in centrist clothing. The days of a Tim Hanna and compassionate conservativism are over. I, for one, wish they weren’t, and hope for a day when the right wing is not so inundated with hate. Instead, we are at a moment in time when federal protections and policies on behalf of our most marginalized arewaning.
CATHARINE A. MACKINNON ON TRANS WOMEN Here’s another interview with MacKinnon with TransAdvocate where she reiterates these points. By now, I aggressively don’t care. And this from a feminist – nay, maybe *the* feminist – who takes women’s experience of patriarchal violence and women’s fearGAY CROSSDRESSER
Recently, this was the case with Corey, who wanted people to know that (1) gay crossdressers exist, and (2) a little bit more about their experience. In Corey’s own words: Being a homosexual man, who believes he is really a woman, it should therefore follow that NAMING ALL THE PARTS Naming All the Parts. Today I’ll be covering Kate Bornstein’s “Naming All the Parts” chapter of Gender Outlaw with my Gender Studies 100 class. It’s always an interesting thing to bring up hankie codes with undergraduates. It’s the chapter in which she CISHET WHITE MEN QUESTIONNAIRE CisHet White Men Questionnaire. Application Allowing Cishet White Men to Live Among Us. In the light of yet another mass shooting by a cishet white man, it is apparent that, as a group, these individuals do not quite understand the basic laws of civilization. Therefore, this committee recommends only allowing them to live among us oncethey
ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
"THE OPPOSITE SEX"
The Opposite Sex, a two-part Showtime documentary, begins with the gripping journey of trans man Rene Pena, a God-fearing, married truck driver. By Christopher Lisotta. The Opposite Sex: Rene’s Story opens with documentary subject Rene Pena jogging through the countryside. Handsome, muscled, and driven, he’s a prime example of masculinity. (EN)GENDER – HELEN BOYD KRAMER'S JOURNAL ON GENDER AND STUFFCOMINGS & GOINGSACTIVISMBIOGRAPHYHEALTHMHB MESSAGE BOARDSYOUTH In a 2018 study, 85% of trans teens reported “seriously considering suicide,” while over half of them attempted suicide. Because life is that fucking tough for them. In another study, 78% of respondents reported being harassed, 35% attacked and 12% sexually assaulted. Trans adults have suicide rate comparable only to combat vetssuffering
ABOUT SHE’S NOT THE MAN I MARRIED She’s Not the Man I Married is a fascinating consideration of the ways in which relationships are gendered, how gender limits us in the ways we love, and how we cope – or don’t – with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships. It will be published by Seal Press in March 2007. CHAD DORAN IS A CONSERVATIVE. Chad Doran is a conservative in centrist clothing. The days of a Tim Hanna and compassionate conservativism are over. I, for one, wish they weren’t, and hope for a day when the right wing is not so inundated with hate. Instead, we are at a moment in time when federal protections and policies on behalf of our most marginalized arewaning.
CATHARINE A. MACKINNON ON TRANS WOMEN Here’s another interview with MacKinnon with TransAdvocate where she reiterates these points. By now, I aggressively don’t care. And this from a feminist – nay, maybe *the* feminist – who takes women’s experience of patriarchal violence and women’s fearGAY CROSSDRESSER
Recently, this was the case with Corey, who wanted people to know that (1) gay crossdressers exist, and (2) a little bit more about their experience. In Corey’s own words: Being a homosexual man, who believes he is really a woman, it should therefore follow that NAMING ALL THE PARTS Naming All the Parts. Today I’ll be covering Kate Bornstein’s “Naming All the Parts” chapter of Gender Outlaw with my Gender Studies 100 class. It’s always an interesting thing to bring up hankie codes with undergraduates. It’s the chapter in which she CISHET WHITE MEN QUESTIONNAIRE CisHet White Men Questionnaire. Application Allowing Cishet White Men to Live Among Us. In the light of yet another mass shooting by a cishet white man, it is apparent that, as a group, these individuals do not quite understand the basic laws of civilization. Therefore, this committee recommends only allowing them to live among us oncethey
ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
"THE OPPOSITE SEX"
The Opposite Sex, a two-part Showtime documentary, begins with the gripping journey of trans man Rene Pena, a God-fearing, married truck driver. By Christopher Lisotta. The Opposite Sex: Rene’s Story opens with documentary subject Rene Pena jogging through the countryside. Handsome, muscled, and driven, he’s a prime example of masculinity. TRANSGENDER ACTIVISTS CELEBRATE VICTORY IN NEW YORK CITY Transgender advocates and activists are celebrating the release of Guidelines Regarding Gender Identity Discrimination from the New YorkCity Commission on
CROSSDRESSING
So here’s an interesting artistic/literary take on crossdressing that is definitely not the standard narrative and yet shares some commonalities with it:. In the book’s introduction, Mr. Vollmann explains that his interest in cross-dressing is more an exploration of femininity than an expression of some complicated gender identity. GUEST AUTHOR: JOIE DE VIVRE #TDOV2021 Guest Author: Joie de Vivre #TDOV2021. Today is the annual Trans Day of Visibility, and for trans folks (and our non-binary/gender non-conforming siblings) its both the best of times and the worst of times. I mostly post about the latter because the effort to eradicate — and I don’t use that word lightly — trans people from publiclife is
100,000. – (EN)GENDER 100,000. The New York Times has their front page ready for tomorrow, when we hit that number: six columns of names, places, some brief phrase culled from the person’s obituary.There are no images, just names. It’s powerful and provocative and is the first thing I’ve seen that tries to present to us what we’re living through. ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
"THE OPPOSITE SEX"
The Opposite Sex, a two-part Showtime documentary, begins with the gripping journey of trans man Rene Pena, a God-fearing, married truck driver. By Christopher Lisotta. The Opposite Sex: Rene’s Story opens with documentary subject Rene Pena jogging through the countryside. Handsome, muscled, and driven, he’s a prime example of masculinity. CISHET WHITE MEN QUESTIONNAIRE CisHet White Men Questionnaire. Application Allowing Cishet White Men to Live Among Us. In the light of yet another mass shooting by a cishet white man, it is apparent that, as a group, these individuals do not quite understand the basic laws of civilization. Therefore, this committee recommends only allowing them to live among us oncethey
HITLER WORSE THAN HITLER (REALLY) So this is horrifying: As early as 1933, at the start of Hitler’s reign, the Third Reich established about 110 camps specifically designed to imprison FIVE QUESTIONS WITH… SUSAN STRYKER Susan Stryker is a researcher, writer, queer historian, artist, and a filmmaker. She is the former executive director of the GLBT Historical Society of Northern California, and a former history columnist for Planet Out.She has written and co-authored books like Gay by the Bay: A History of Queer Culture in the San Francisco Bay Area and edited “The Transgender Issue” of The Journal of FIVE QUESTIONS WITH… ALICE NOVIC Alice (Richard) Novic is the author of Girl Talk magazine’s “Go Ask Alice” column and also the author of the newly-published Alice in Genderland, a modern (readable!) memoir by a crossdresser.Dr. Richard Novic, Alice’s male self, is a psychiatrist who lives with his wife in the LA area, and his femme self, Alice, has a steadyboyfriend.
TRANS COUPLES TALK
Trans Couples Talk. This is the text of the talk I gave at the Liberty Conference on May 2nd, 2009: How We Love You: Let Us Count the Ways. There are partners who are male, female, and trans; there are partners who met their trans person before the trans person knew what was going on; there are partners who married crossdressers who had sworn (EN)GENDER – HELEN BOYD KRAMER'S JOURNAL ON GENDER AND STUFFCOMINGS & GOINGSACTIVISMBIOGRAPHYHEALTHMHB MESSAGE BOARDSYOUTH In a 2018 study, 85% of trans teens reported “seriously considering suicide,” while over half of them attempted suicide. Because life is that fucking tough for them. In another study, 78% of respondents reported being harassed, 35% attacked and 12% sexually assaulted. Trans adults have suicide rate comparable only to combat vetssuffering
MY HUSBAND BETTY
An alternate shot for the cover of the book (photo by Sara Press) Betty as Bettie Page, 1950s fetish pin-up: Betty with Kate Bornstein at the IFGE Conference 2004 TRANS PEOPLE AND SPORTS Trans People and Sports. As many of you know, I am not a sports person. What I am very enthusiastic about, however, is girls doing sports. I was a tomboy, remember, and had to compete with boys a grade older in order to lose some races. I dropped out of sports for a variety of reasons, but that’s a different story for a differentday.
ABOUT SHE’S NOT THE MAN I MARRIED She’s Not the Man I Married is a fascinating consideration of the ways in which relationships are gendered, how gender limits us in the ways we love, and how we cope – or don’t – with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships. It will be published by Seal Press in March 2007. CATHARINE A. MACKINNON ON TRANS WOMEN Here’s another interview with MacKinnon with TransAdvocate where she reiterates these points. By now, I aggressively don’t care. And this from a feminist – nay, maybe *the* feminist – who takes women’s experience of patriarchal violence and women’s fear CHAD DORAN IS A CONSERVATIVE. Chad Doran is a conservative in centrist clothing. The days of a Tim Hanna and compassionate conservativism are over. I, for one, wish they weren’t, and hope for a day when the right wing is not so inundated with hate. Instead, we are at a moment in time when federal protections and policies on behalf of our most marginalized arewaning.
GAY CROSSDRESSER
Recently, this was the case with Corey, who wanted people to know that (1) gay crossdressers exist, and (2) a little bit more about their experience. In Corey’s own words: Being a homosexual man, who believes he is really a woman, it should therefore follow that FIVE QUESTIONS WITH… CYNTHIA & LINDA PHILLIPS Five Questions With. Cynthia & Linda Phillips. Cynthia & Linda Phillips were once a crossdresser & wife who started the famous Texas T Party. They have stayed together despite this crossdresser’s having discovered she was transsexual, and they make their life together as two women. 1) Why did you start the Texas T-Party? NAMING ALL THE PARTS Naming All the Parts. Today I’ll be covering Kate Bornstein’s “Naming All the Parts” chapter of Gender Outlaw with my Gender Studies 100 class. It’s always an interesting thing to bring up hankie codes with undergraduates. It’s the chapter in which she ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
(EN)GENDER – HELEN BOYD KRAMER'S JOURNAL ON GENDER AND STUFFCOMINGS & GOINGSACTIVISMBIOGRAPHYHEALTHMHB MESSAGE BOARDSYOUTH In a 2018 study, 85% of trans teens reported “seriously considering suicide,” while over half of them attempted suicide. Because life is that fucking tough for them. In another study, 78% of respondents reported being harassed, 35% attacked and 12% sexually assaulted. Trans adults have suicide rate comparable only to combat vetssuffering
MY HUSBAND BETTY
An alternate shot for the cover of the book (photo by Sara Press) Betty as Bettie Page, 1950s fetish pin-up: Betty with Kate Bornstein at the IFGE Conference 2004 TRANS PEOPLE AND SPORTS Trans People and Sports. As many of you know, I am not a sports person. What I am very enthusiastic about, however, is girls doing sports. I was a tomboy, remember, and had to compete with boys a grade older in order to lose some races. I dropped out of sports for a variety of reasons, but that’s a different story for a differentday.
ABOUT SHE’S NOT THE MAN I MARRIED She’s Not the Man I Married is a fascinating consideration of the ways in which relationships are gendered, how gender limits us in the ways we love, and how we cope – or don’t – with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships. It will be published by Seal Press in March 2007. CATHARINE A. MACKINNON ON TRANS WOMEN Here’s another interview with MacKinnon with TransAdvocate where she reiterates these points. By now, I aggressively don’t care. And this from a feminist – nay, maybe *the* feminist – who takes women’s experience of patriarchal violence and women’s fear CHAD DORAN IS A CONSERVATIVE. Chad Doran is a conservative in centrist clothing. The days of a Tim Hanna and compassionate conservativism are over. I, for one, wish they weren’t, and hope for a day when the right wing is not so inundated with hate. Instead, we are at a moment in time when federal protections and policies on behalf of our most marginalized arewaning.
GAY CROSSDRESSER
Recently, this was the case with Corey, who wanted people to know that (1) gay crossdressers exist, and (2) a little bit more about their experience. In Corey’s own words: Being a homosexual man, who believes he is really a woman, it should therefore follow that FIVE QUESTIONS WITH… CYNTHIA & LINDA PHILLIPS Five Questions With. Cynthia & Linda Phillips. Cynthia & Linda Phillips were once a crossdresser & wife who started the famous Texas T Party. They have stayed together despite this crossdresser’s having discovered she was transsexual, and they make their life together as two women. 1) Why did you start the Texas T-Party? NAMING ALL THE PARTS Naming All the Parts. Today I’ll be covering Kate Bornstein’s “Naming All the Parts” chapter of Gender Outlaw with my Gender Studies 100 class. It’s always an interesting thing to bring up hankie codes with undergraduates. It’s the chapter in which she ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
MY HUSBAND BETTY
An alternate shot for the cover of the book (photo by Sara Press) Betty as Bettie Page, 1950s fetish pin-up: Betty with Kate Bornstein at the IFGE Conference 2004 100,000. – (EN)GENDER 100,000. The New York Times has their front page ready for tomorrow, when we hit that number: six columns of names, places, some brief phrase culled from the person’s obituary.There are no images, just names. It’s powerful and provocative and is the first thing I’ve seen that tries to present to us what we’re living through. GUEST AUTHOR: JOIE DE VIVRE #TDOV2021 Guest Author: Joie de Vivre #TDOV2021. Today is the annual Trans Day of Visibility, and for trans folks (and our non-binary/gender non-conforming siblings) its both the best of times and the worst of times. I mostly post about the latter because the effort to eradicate — and I don’t use that word lightly — trans people from publiclife is
CROSSDRESSING
So here’s an interesting artistic/literary take on crossdressing that is definitely not the standard narrative and yet shares some commonalities with it:. In the book’s introduction, Mr. Vollmann explains that his interest in cross-dressing is more an exploration of femininity than an expression of some complicated gender identity. FROM THE RUBBLE: NOTES ON HOW TO DO THIS (OR NOT) There are things I could be doing, like re organizing my house or doing a spring cleaning; I could be exercising every day or teaching myself to make scones. I could try on all my clothes and get r ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
FIVE QUESTIONS WITH… SUSAN STRYKER November 2, 2005 by Helen Boyd. Five Questions With. Susan Stryker. Susan Stryker is a researcher, writer, queer historian, artist, and a filmmaker. She is the former executive director of the GLBT Historical Society of Northern California, and a former history columnist for Planet Out. She has written and co-authored books like Gay by the IT’S NOT ABOUT HER EX: A TRANS PARTNER’S STORY It’s Not About Her Ex: A Trans Partner’s Story. My friend M. is a woman who was assaulted by her ex. Her ex happens to be a woman, too, of trans history. W hen the news of what had happened broke, her story was drowned out by all of the people who only wanted to use their story as an ideological argument. They took the focus from the MAY 2004 – (EN)GENDER Sex change birth certificate legislation approved. May 27 2004. A Birmingham MP has celebrated victory in a ten-year campaign to win new rights for people who have a sex change. Transsexuals will now be able to demand new birth certificates – with their correct gender, thanks to a. change in the law. TRANS DOCUMENTARY DRINKING GAME Trans Documentary Drinking Game. In light of the documentary about Chloe Prince that will air tomorrow night, I thought we should all be prepared for what looks like it’s going to be a doozy of a predictable documentary. So, the rules, such as they are, for watching a trans documentary: Putting on makeup. Two drinks for reverse camerashot
(EN)GENDER – HELEN BOYD KRAMER'S JOURNAL ON GENDER AND STUFFCOMINGS & GOINGSACTIVISMBIOGRAPHYHEALTHMHB MESSAGE BOARDSYOUTH In a 2018 study, 85% of trans teens reported “seriously considering suicide,” while over half of them attempted suicide. Because life is that fucking tough for them. In another study, 78% of respondents reported being harassed, 35% attacked and 12% sexually assaulted. Trans adults have suicide rate comparable only to combat vetssuffering
ABOUT SHE’S NOT THE MAN I MARRIED She’s Not the Man I Married is a fascinating consideration of the ways in which relationships are gendered, how gender limits us in the ways we love, and how we cope – or don’t – with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships. It will be published by Seal Press in March 2007. CHAD DORAN IS A CONSERVATIVE. Chad Doran is a conservative in centrist clothing. The days of a Tim Hanna and compassionate conservativism are over. I, for one, wish they weren’t, and hope for a day when the right wing is not so inundated with hate. Instead, we are at a moment in time when federal protections and policies on behalf of our most marginalized arewaning.
CATHARINE A. MACKINNON ON TRANS WOMEN Here’s another interview with MacKinnon with TransAdvocate where she reiterates these points. By now, I aggressively don’t care. And this from a feminist – nay, maybe *the* feminist – who takes women’s experience of patriarchal violence and women’s fearGAY CROSSDRESSER
Recently, this was the case with Corey, who wanted people to know that (1) gay crossdressers exist, and (2) a little bit more about their experience. In Corey’s own words: Being a homosexual man, who believes he is really a woman, it should therefore follow that FIVE QUESTIONS WITH… CYNTHIA & LINDA PHILLIPS Five Questions With. Cynthia & Linda Phillips. Cynthia & Linda Phillips were once a crossdresser & wife who started the famous Texas T Party. They have stayed together despite this crossdresser’s having discovered she was transsexual, and they make their life together as two women. 1) Why did you start the Texas T-Party? NAMING ALL THE PARTS Naming All the Parts. Today I’ll be covering Kate Bornstein’s “Naming All the Parts” chapter of Gender Outlaw with my Gender Studies 100 class. It’s always an interesting thing to bring up hankie codes with undergraduates. It’s the chapter in which she ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
COMING OUT AND RUNNING FOR OFFICE AS A TRANS LESBIAN To find out more about Helen’s writing, speaking, and consulting, visit her author website Helen Boyd Books. JEEZ LOUISE THIS WHOLE CISGENDER THING Jeez Louise This Whole Cisgender Thing. Since Alex Blaze took it on, & since we’ve been discussing this whole “is it okay to call someone who isn’t trans cisgender?” question on the boards, I may as well put it down here. First, I’m going to claim a difference between cisgender & cissexual. Cisgender, the problem seems to me, is not (EN)GENDER – HELEN BOYD KRAMER'S JOURNAL ON GENDER AND STUFFCOMINGS & GOINGSACTIVISMBIOGRAPHYHEALTHMHB MESSAGE BOARDSYOUTH In a 2018 study, 85% of trans teens reported “seriously considering suicide,” while over half of them attempted suicide. Because life is that fucking tough for them. In another study, 78% of respondents reported being harassed, 35% attacked and 12% sexually assaulted. Trans adults have suicide rate comparable only to combat vetssuffering
ABOUT SHE’S NOT THE MAN I MARRIED She’s Not the Man I Married is a fascinating consideration of the ways in which relationships are gendered, how gender limits us in the ways we love, and how we cope – or don’t – with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships. It will be published by Seal Press in March 2007. CHAD DORAN IS A CONSERVATIVE. Chad Doran is a conservative in centrist clothing. The days of a Tim Hanna and compassionate conservativism are over. I, for one, wish they weren’t, and hope for a day when the right wing is not so inundated with hate. Instead, we are at a moment in time when federal protections and policies on behalf of our most marginalized arewaning.
CATHARINE A. MACKINNON ON TRANS WOMEN Here’s another interview with MacKinnon with TransAdvocate where she reiterates these points. By now, I aggressively don’t care. And this from a feminist – nay, maybe *the* feminist – who takes women’s experience of patriarchal violence and women’s fearGAY CROSSDRESSER
Recently, this was the case with Corey, who wanted people to know that (1) gay crossdressers exist, and (2) a little bit more about their experience. In Corey’s own words: Being a homosexual man, who believes he is really a woman, it should therefore follow that FIVE QUESTIONS WITH… CYNTHIA & LINDA PHILLIPS Five Questions With. Cynthia & Linda Phillips. Cynthia & Linda Phillips were once a crossdresser & wife who started the famous Texas T Party. They have stayed together despite this crossdresser’s having discovered she was transsexual, and they make their life together as two women. 1) Why did you start the Texas T-Party? NAMING ALL THE PARTS Naming All the Parts. Today I’ll be covering Kate Bornstein’s “Naming All the Parts” chapter of Gender Outlaw with my Gender Studies 100 class. It’s always an interesting thing to bring up hankie codes with undergraduates. It’s the chapter in which she ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
COMING OUT AND RUNNING FOR OFFICE AS A TRANS LESBIAN To find out more about Helen’s writing, speaking, and consulting, visit her author website Helen Boyd Books. JEEZ LOUISE THIS WHOLE CISGENDER THING Jeez Louise This Whole Cisgender Thing. Since Alex Blaze took it on, & since we’ve been discussing this whole “is it okay to call someone who isn’t trans cisgender?” question on the boards, I may as well put it down here. First, I’m going to claim a difference between cisgender & cissexual. Cisgender, the problem seems to me, is not GUEST AUTHOR: JOIE DE VIVRE #TDOV2021 Guest Author: Joie de Vivre #TDOV2021. Today is the annual Trans Day of Visibility, and for trans folks (and our non-binary/gender non-conforming siblings) its both the best of times and the worst of times. I mostly post about the latter because the effort to eradicate — and I don’t use that word lightly — trans people from publiclife is
CROSSDRESSING
So here’s an interesting artistic/literary take on crossdressing that is definitely not the standard narrative and yet shares some commonalities with it:. In the book’s introduction, Mr. Vollmann explains that his interest in cross-dressing is more an exploration of femininity than an expression of some complicated gender identity. CHAD DORAN IS A CONSERVATIVE. Chad Doran is a conservative in centrist clothing. The days of a Tim Hanna and compassionate conservativism are over. I, for one, wish they weren’t, and hope for a day when the right wing is not so inundated with hate. Instead, we are at a moment in time when federal protections and policies on behalf of our most marginalized arewaning.
"THE OPPOSITE SEX"
The Opposite Sex, a two-part Showtime documentary, begins with the gripping journey of trans man Rene Pena, a God-fearing, married truck driver. By Christopher Lisotta. The Opposite Sex: Rene’s Story opens with documentary subject Rene Pena jogging through the countryside. Handsome, muscled, and driven, he’s a prime example of masculinity. ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
TRANSVESTITES
Transvestites scratch the itch of gender dysphoria through crossdressing, and that’s all. Transvestites are not in the DSM (only fetishistic transvestites are, and I’ve yet to meet anyone who fits that description). As Donna, one of our MHB board faithful clarified, “the word “transvestite” was coined by MagnusHirschfeld circa
CISHET WHITE MEN QUESTIONNAIRE CisHet White Men Questionnaire. Application Allowing Cishet White Men to Live Among Us. In the light of yet another mass shooting by a cishet white man, it is apparent that, as a group, these individuals do not quite understand the basic laws of civilization. Therefore, this committee recommends only allowing them to live among us oncethey
IT’S NOT ABOUT HER EX: A TRANS PARTNER’S STORY It’s Not About Her Ex: A Trans Partner’s Story. My friend M. is a woman who was assaulted by her ex. Her ex happens to be a woman, too, of trans history. W hen the news of what had happened broke, her story was drowned out by all of the people who only wanted to use their story as an ideological argument. They took the focus from the COMING OUT AND RUNNING FOR OFFICE AS A TRANS LESBIAN To find out more about Helen’s writing, speaking, and consulting, visit her author website Helen Boyd Books.TRANS COUPLES TALK
Trans Couples Talk. This is the text of the talk I gave at the Liberty Conference on May 2nd, 2009: How We Love You: Let Us Count the Ways. There are partners who are male, female, and trans; there are partners who met their trans person before the trans person knew what was going on; there are partners who married crossdressers who had sworn (EN)GENDER – HELEN BOYD KRAMER'S JOURNAL ON GENDER AND STUFFCOMINGS & GOINGSACTIVISMBIOGRAPHYHEALTHMHB MESSAGE BOARDSYOUTH In a 2018 study, 85% of trans teens reported “seriously considering suicide,” while over half of them attempted suicide. Because life is that fucking tough for them. In another study, 78% of respondents reported being harassed, 35% attacked and 12% sexually assaulted. Trans adults have suicide rate comparable only to combat vetssuffering
TRANS PEOPLE AND SPORTS Trans People and Sports. As many of you know, I am not a sports person. What I am very enthusiastic about, however, is girls doing sports. I was a tomboy, remember, and had to compete with boys a grade older in order to lose some races. I dropped out of sports for a variety of reasons, but that’s a different story for a differentday.
CATHARINE A. MACKINNON ON TRANS WOMEN Here’s another interview with MacKinnon with TransAdvocate where she reiterates these points. By now, I aggressively don’t care. And this from a feminist – nay, maybe *the* feminist – who takes women’s experience of patriarchal violence and women’s fear CHAD DORAN IS A CONSERVATIVE. Chad Doran is a conservative in centrist clothing. The days of a Tim Hanna and compassionate conservativism are over. I, for one, wish they weren’t, and hope for a day when the right wing is not so inundated with hate. Instead, we are at a moment in time when federal protections and policies on behalf of our most marginalized arewaning.
GAY CROSSDRESSER
Recently, this was the case with Corey, who wanted people to know that (1) gay crossdressers exist, and (2) a little bit more about their experience. In Corey’s own words: Being a homosexual man, who believes he is really a woman, it should therefore follow that FIVE QUESTIONS WITH… CYNTHIA & LINDA PHILLIPS Five Questions With. Cynthia & Linda Phillips. Cynthia & Linda Phillips were once a crossdresser & wife who started the famous Texas T Party. They have stayed together despite this crossdresser’s having discovered she was transsexual, and they make their life together as two women. 1) Why did you start the Texas T-Party? NAMING ALL THE PARTS Naming All the Parts. Today I’ll be covering Kate Bornstein’s “Naming All the Parts” chapter of Gender Outlaw with my Gender Studies 100 class. It’s always an interesting thing to bring up hankie codes with undergraduates. It’s the chapter in which she ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
COMING OUT AND RUNNING FOR OFFICE AS A TRANS LESBIAN To find out more about Helen’s writing, speaking, and consulting, visit her author website Helen Boyd Books. JEEZ LOUISE THIS WHOLE CISGENDER THING Jeez Louise This Whole Cisgender Thing. Since Alex Blaze took it on, & since we’ve been discussing this whole “is it okay to call someone who isn’t trans cisgender?” question on the boards, I may as well put it down here. First, I’m going to claim a difference between cisgender & cissexual. Cisgender, the problem seems to me, is not (EN)GENDER – HELEN BOYD KRAMER'S JOURNAL ON GENDER AND STUFFCOMINGS & GOINGSACTIVISMBIOGRAPHYHEALTHMHB MESSAGE BOARDSYOUTH In a 2018 study, 85% of trans teens reported “seriously considering suicide,” while over half of them attempted suicide. Because life is that fucking tough for them. In another study, 78% of respondents reported being harassed, 35% attacked and 12% sexually assaulted. Trans adults have suicide rate comparable only to combat vetssuffering
TRANS PEOPLE AND SPORTS Trans People and Sports. As many of you know, I am not a sports person. What I am very enthusiastic about, however, is girls doing sports. I was a tomboy, remember, and had to compete with boys a grade older in order to lose some races. I dropped out of sports for a variety of reasons, but that’s a different story for a differentday.
CATHARINE A. MACKINNON ON TRANS WOMEN Here’s another interview with MacKinnon with TransAdvocate where she reiterates these points. By now, I aggressively don’t care. And this from a feminist – nay, maybe *the* feminist – who takes women’s experience of patriarchal violence and women’s fear CHAD DORAN IS A CONSERVATIVE. Chad Doran is a conservative in centrist clothing. The days of a Tim Hanna and compassionate conservativism are over. I, for one, wish they weren’t, and hope for a day when the right wing is not so inundated with hate. Instead, we are at a moment in time when federal protections and policies on behalf of our most marginalized arewaning.
GAY CROSSDRESSER
Recently, this was the case with Corey, who wanted people to know that (1) gay crossdressers exist, and (2) a little bit more about their experience. In Corey’s own words: Being a homosexual man, who believes he is really a woman, it should therefore follow that FIVE QUESTIONS WITH… CYNTHIA & LINDA PHILLIPS Five Questions With. Cynthia & Linda Phillips. Cynthia & Linda Phillips were once a crossdresser & wife who started the famous Texas T Party. They have stayed together despite this crossdresser’s having discovered she was transsexual, and they make their life together as two women. 1) Why did you start the Texas T-Party? NAMING ALL THE PARTS Naming All the Parts. Today I’ll be covering Kate Bornstein’s “Naming All the Parts” chapter of Gender Outlaw with my Gender Studies 100 class. It’s always an interesting thing to bring up hankie codes with undergraduates. It’s the chapter in which she ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
COMING OUT AND RUNNING FOR OFFICE AS A TRANS LESBIAN To find out more about Helen’s writing, speaking, and consulting, visit her author website Helen Boyd Books. JEEZ LOUISE THIS WHOLE CISGENDER THING Jeez Louise This Whole Cisgender Thing. Since Alex Blaze took it on, & since we’ve been discussing this whole “is it okay to call someone who isn’t trans cisgender?” question on the boards, I may as well put it down here. First, I’m going to claim a difference between cisgender & cissexual. Cisgender, the problem seems to me, is not GUEST AUTHOR: JOIE DE VIVRE #TDOV2021 Guest Author: Joie de Vivre #TDOV2021. Today is the annual Trans Day of Visibility, and for trans folks (and our non-binary/gender non-conforming siblings) its both the best of times and the worst of times. I mostly post about the latter because the effort to eradicate — and I don’t use that word lightly — trans people from publiclife is
TRANSVESTITES
Transvestites scratch the itch of gender dysphoria through crossdressing, and that’s all. Transvestites are not in the DSM (only fetishistic transvestites are, and I’ve yet to meet anyone who fits that description). As Donna, one of our MHB board faithful clarified, “the word “transvestite” was coined by MagnusHirschfeld circa
ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
"THE OPPOSITE SEX"
The Opposite Sex, a two-part Showtime documentary, begins with the gripping journey of trans man Rene Pena, a God-fearing, married truck driver. By Christopher Lisotta. The Opposite Sex: Rene’s Story opens with documentary subject Rene Pena jogging through the countryside. Handsome, muscled, and driven, he’s a prime example of masculinity. CISHET WHITE MEN QUESTIONNAIRE CisHet White Men Questionnaire. Application Allowing Cishet White Men to Live Among Us. In the light of yet another mass shooting by a cishet white man, it is apparent that, as a group, these individuals do not quite understand the basic laws of civilization. Therefore, this committee recommends only allowing them to live among us oncethey
RACE IS NOT GENDER: ABOUT RACHEL DOLEZAL As much as I joked yesterday that America just found out, via Spokane, that race is a social construction, I meant it to be only that: a joke. It has lead to a lot of people actually talking about IT’S NOT ABOUT HER EX: A TRANS PARTNER’S STORY It’s Not About Her Ex: A Trans Partner’s Story. My friend M. is a woman who was assaulted by her ex. Her ex happens to be a woman, too, of trans history. W hen the news of what had happened broke, her story was drowned out by all of the people who only wanted to use their story as an ideological argument. They took the focus from the COMING OUT AND RUNNING FOR OFFICE AS A TRANS LESBIAN To find out more about Helen’s writing, speaking, and consulting, visit her author website Helen Boyd Books.TRANS COUPLES TALK
Trans Couples Talk. This is the text of the talk I gave at the Liberty Conference on May 2nd, 2009: How We Love You: Let Us Count the Ways. There are partners who are male, female, and trans; there are partners who met their trans person before the trans person knew what was going on; there are partners who married crossdressers who had sworn GUEST AUTHOR: DARYA TEESEWELL, “HOLLYWOOD TAKES CARE OF In response to my HuffPo post, we have our first crosspost, by my friend Darya:. A young trans friend of mine in the Hollywood film industry, a union member, spoke to me recently about a conversation she had when she asked an individual representing the Motion Picture Industry Health Plan about health care for herself. (EN)GENDER – HELEN BOYD KRAMER'S JOURNAL ON GENDER AND STUFFCOMINGS & GOINGSACTIVISMBIOGRAPHYHEALTHMHB MESSAGE BOARDSYOUTH In a 2018 study, 85% of trans teens reported “seriously considering suicide,” while over half of them attempted suicide. Because life is that fucking tough for them. In another study, 78% of respondents reported being harassed, 35% attacked and 12% sexually assaulted. Trans adults have suicide rate comparable only to combat vetssuffering
TRANS PEOPLE AND SPORTS Trans People and Sports. As many of you know, I am not a sports person. What I am very enthusiastic about, however, is girls doing sports. I was a tomboy, remember, and had to compete with boys a grade older in order to lose some races. I dropped out of sports for a variety of reasons, but that’s a different story for a differentday.
CATHARINE A. MACKINNON ON TRANS WOMEN Here’s another interview with MacKinnon with TransAdvocate where she reiterates these points. By now, I aggressively don’t care. And this from a feminist – nay, maybe *the* feminist – who takes women’s experience of patriarchal violence and women’s fear CHAD DORAN IS A CONSERVATIVE. Chad Doran is a conservative in centrist clothing. The days of a Tim Hanna and compassionate conservativism are over. I, for one, wish they weren’t, and hope for a day when the right wing is not so inundated with hate. Instead, we are at a moment in time when federal protections and policies on behalf of our most marginalized arewaning.
GAY CROSSDRESSER
Recently, this was the case with Corey, who wanted people to know that (1) gay crossdressers exist, and (2) a little bit more about their experience. In Corey’s own words: Being a homosexual man, who believes he is really a woman, it should therefore follow that FIVE QUESTIONS WITH… CYNTHIA & LINDA PHILLIPS Five Questions With. Cynthia & Linda Phillips. Cynthia & Linda Phillips were once a crossdresser & wife who started the famous Texas T Party. They have stayed together despite this crossdresser’s having discovered she was transsexual, and they make their life together as two women. 1) Why did you start the Texas T-Party? NAMING ALL THE PARTS Naming All the Parts. Today I’ll be covering Kate Bornstein’s “Naming All the Parts” chapter of Gender Outlaw with my Gender Studies 100 class. It’s always an interesting thing to bring up hankie codes with undergraduates. It’s the chapter in which she ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
COMING OUT AND RUNNING FOR OFFICE AS A TRANS LESBIAN To find out more about Helen’s writing, speaking, and consulting, visit her author website Helen Boyd Books. JEEZ LOUISE THIS WHOLE CISGENDER THING Jeez Louise This Whole Cisgender Thing. Since Alex Blaze took it on, & since we’ve been discussing this whole “is it okay to call someone who isn’t trans cisgender?” question on the boards, I may as well put it down here. First, I’m going to claim a difference between cisgender & cissexual. Cisgender, the problem seems to me, is not (EN)GENDER – HELEN BOYD KRAMER'S JOURNAL ON GENDER AND STUFFCOMINGS & GOINGSACTIVISMBIOGRAPHYHEALTHMHB MESSAGE BOARDSYOUTH In a 2018 study, 85% of trans teens reported “seriously considering suicide,” while over half of them attempted suicide. Because life is that fucking tough for them. In another study, 78% of respondents reported being harassed, 35% attacked and 12% sexually assaulted. Trans adults have suicide rate comparable only to combat vetssuffering
TRANS PEOPLE AND SPORTS Trans People and Sports. As many of you know, I am not a sports person. What I am very enthusiastic about, however, is girls doing sports. I was a tomboy, remember, and had to compete with boys a grade older in order to lose some races. I dropped out of sports for a variety of reasons, but that’s a different story for a differentday.
CATHARINE A. MACKINNON ON TRANS WOMEN Here’s another interview with MacKinnon with TransAdvocate where she reiterates these points. By now, I aggressively don’t care. And this from a feminist – nay, maybe *the* feminist – who takes women’s experience of patriarchal violence and women’s fear CHAD DORAN IS A CONSERVATIVE. Chad Doran is a conservative in centrist clothing. The days of a Tim Hanna and compassionate conservativism are over. I, for one, wish they weren’t, and hope for a day when the right wing is not so inundated with hate. Instead, we are at a moment in time when federal protections and policies on behalf of our most marginalized arewaning.
GAY CROSSDRESSER
Recently, this was the case with Corey, who wanted people to know that (1) gay crossdressers exist, and (2) a little bit more about their experience. In Corey’s own words: Being a homosexual man, who believes he is really a woman, it should therefore follow that FIVE QUESTIONS WITH… CYNTHIA & LINDA PHILLIPS Five Questions With. Cynthia & Linda Phillips. Cynthia & Linda Phillips were once a crossdresser & wife who started the famous Texas T Party. They have stayed together despite this crossdresser’s having discovered she was transsexual, and they make their life together as two women. 1) Why did you start the Texas T-Party? NAMING ALL THE PARTS Naming All the Parts. Today I’ll be covering Kate Bornstein’s “Naming All the Parts” chapter of Gender Outlaw with my Gender Studies 100 class. It’s always an interesting thing to bring up hankie codes with undergraduates. It’s the chapter in which she ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
COMING OUT AND RUNNING FOR OFFICE AS A TRANS LESBIAN To find out more about Helen’s writing, speaking, and consulting, visit her author website Helen Boyd Books. JEEZ LOUISE THIS WHOLE CISGENDER THING Jeez Louise This Whole Cisgender Thing. Since Alex Blaze took it on, & since we’ve been discussing this whole “is it okay to call someone who isn’t trans cisgender?” question on the boards, I may as well put it down here. First, I’m going to claim a difference between cisgender & cissexual. Cisgender, the problem seems to me, is not GUEST AUTHOR: JOIE DE VIVRE #TDOV2021 Guest Author: Joie de Vivre #TDOV2021. Today is the annual Trans Day of Visibility, and for trans folks (and our non-binary/gender non-conforming siblings) its both the best of times and the worst of times. I mostly post about the latter because the effort to eradicate — and I don’t use that word lightly — trans people from publiclife is
TRANSVESTITES
Transvestites scratch the itch of gender dysphoria through crossdressing, and that’s all. Transvestites are not in the DSM (only fetishistic transvestites are, and I’ve yet to meet anyone who fits that description). As Donna, one of our MHB board faithful clarified, “the word “transvestite” was coined by MagnusHirschfeld circa
ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND: None, as far as I can tell. Someone posted this ‘wish list‘ (or this one, or this one) of the good things about having a CD for a husband, and I mentioned how it was this kind of article that bothered me so much way back when.Ironic or not, I was about 300% more positive about having a CD for a husband than most of the women I met onlinetoo.
"THE OPPOSITE SEX"
The Opposite Sex, a two-part Showtime documentary, begins with the gripping journey of trans man Rene Pena, a God-fearing, married truck driver. By Christopher Lisotta. The Opposite Sex: Rene’s Story opens with documentary subject Rene Pena jogging through the countryside. Handsome, muscled, and driven, he’s a prime example of masculinity. CISHET WHITE MEN QUESTIONNAIRE CisHet White Men Questionnaire. Application Allowing Cishet White Men to Live Among Us. In the light of yet another mass shooting by a cishet white man, it is apparent that, as a group, these individuals do not quite understand the basic laws of civilization. Therefore, this committee recommends only allowing them to live among us oncethey
RACE IS NOT GENDER: ABOUT RACHEL DOLEZAL As much as I joked yesterday that America just found out, via Spokane, that race is a social construction, I meant it to be only that: a joke. It has lead to a lot of people actually talking about IT’S NOT ABOUT HER EX: A TRANS PARTNER’S STORY It’s Not About Her Ex: A Trans Partner’s Story. My friend M. is a woman who was assaulted by her ex. Her ex happens to be a woman, too, of trans history. W hen the news of what had happened broke, her story was drowned out by all of the people who only wanted to use their story as an ideological argument. They took the focus from the COMING OUT AND RUNNING FOR OFFICE AS A TRANS LESBIAN To find out more about Helen’s writing, speaking, and consulting, visit her author website Helen Boyd Books.TRANS COUPLES TALK
Trans Couples Talk. This is the text of the talk I gave at the Liberty Conference on May 2nd, 2009: How We Love You: Let Us Count the Ways. There are partners who are male, female, and trans; there are partners who met their trans person before the trans person knew what was going on; there are partners who married crossdressers who had sworn GUEST AUTHOR: DARYA TEESEWELL, “HOLLYWOOD TAKES CARE OF In response to my HuffPo post, we have our first crosspost, by my friend Darya:. A young trans friend of mine in the Hollywood film industry, a union member, spoke to me recently about a conversation she had when she asked an individual representing the Motion Picture Industry Health Plan about health care for herself.Skip to content
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Posted on November 21, 2020 REMEMBERING MONICA ROBERTS #TDOR2020 Here’s a piece I wrote before Election Day about Monica’s death that I recorded for FORGE’s Trans Day of Remembrance. Monica Roberts remembered TDOR 2020 Posted on November 20, 2020 TRANS DAY OF REMEMBRANCE 2020 #TDOR2020 It feels so different this year with Monica gone. It feels so much the same this year, seeing all the photos of the beautiful people taken by violence because they were trans. It feels so different this year with 250,000 families mourning a loved one who died from Covid. It feels the same to realize that there are still people who think a person’s gender identity is a good reason to hate them. It feels so different this year because President Elect Joe Biden not only marked today as Transgender Day of Remembrance, but he made trans and non binary people a promise to respect their dignity and humanrights.
I was talking to a fellow partner of a trans person recently about how terrifying it can be to negotiate other people’s attraction to your partner. On the one hand, it’s nice to see someone realize that they find a trans person attractive for the first time. On the other: really? I mean, there are a million billion examples of beautiful trans people. But the dynamic for someone who is surprised by that attraction is so, so complicated. I’ve had people walk up and tell me how hot my wife is, and sometimes they are so proud of themselves for validating her gender and beauty. Other times it’s just creepyand weird.
But partners always live with that fear that exactly the wrong person will find your person attractive, or find their gender an affront, and so we live with that fear all the time of the person we love being hurt because of who they are, but moreso, because the wrong person’sdick got hard.
It sickens me over and over again to see the beautiful people who were killed maybe because they slept with the wrong person or just because they were walking home from work late at night. Maybe they were doing sex work. Maybe they were in the wrong place at the wrong time. But it’s still a reality that a trans person can be targeted for doing absolutely nothing at all but existing. So when we have these “theoretical” conversations about what gender is I never hear a conversation about gender. What I hear instead is a conversation about whether my beautiful wife deserves to be treated with respect, her life and autonomy protected. And honestly my heart hurts these days, hurts with the piles of grief. It hurts because I miss Monica and still can’t quite believe she’s done. And it hurts with the fear I have for others’ safety, the frustration when I realize how little I feel like I can do, have done. So this year I’m inviting you to celebrate or thank a trans person you know, to send them a card or a gift or pay a bill that needspaying.
If you’ve got suggestions for organizations that specifically help trans people, let me know. Here in Wisconsin there’s FORGE and Diverse & Resilient. Today, consider a donation. Do more. Read a book. Watch _Disclosure_. Support trans candidates foroffice.
Sometimes what bothers me most about TDOR is that I am reminded that a bunch of my friends are trans because their being trans isn’t the important thing about any of them and never fucking has been. But we mark the day to respect the dead, to say their names, to say: violence is not okay. I just really hope, someday, there is no need for TDOR because there is no violence against trans people. Posted on September 16, 2020 THE 19TH ARTICLE ON TRANS CANDIDATES I got interviewed for this article which focuses primarily on Sarah McBridge but also on the history and reasons so many trans people are running for office. I think the most important point I made was thisone:
“The election of President Donald Trump in 2016 has spurred trans people to consider elected office instead of just local community organizing and advocacy, according to Helen Boyd Kramer, an author and instructor of gender studies at Lawrence University in Wisconsin. She said trans people understand the unnecessary politicization of bodies, choice, and medical care “in deep ways.”” https://19thnews.org/2020/09/in-historic-year-for-trans-candidates-sarah-mcbride-poised-to-become-the-nations-first-openly-transgender-state-senator/ Posted on August 19, 2020August 19, 2020 FIRST TRANS DELEGATION: 2004 Homemade pins, made by Babs Siperstein and Monica Helms, for the first trans delegation in 2004. Much thanks to Christina for supplyingthe image.
Yesterday, for the trans/GNC and LGBTQ caucuses, the Jane Fee award was given to Babs (Barbara) Siperstein,who died last year.
This year, there are 35+ trans /GNC delegates to the DNC, and they, of course, are standing on the shoulders of giants.Jane Fee
was the solo trans delegate, at age 73 – the first ever out trans delegate- to the DNC in 2000. BY 2004, THERE WERE 7 TRANS DELEGATES: Monica Helms (who also created and designed the trans pride flag and TAVA, the first transveterans org)
Vanessa Edwards Foster, who created the trans lobbying org, NTACBarbara Siperstein
,
who was so awesome she now has a law named after herKathy Padilla
,
who helped pass Philly’s trans rights lawMelissa Sklarz ,
who has been a moving force in NYC trans rights since forever, and Christina Ocasio (whose current focus is her awesome music).
They were joined by trans journalist Roslyn Manley and by MaraKeisling of NCTE
, who
has gone every year in one role or another. Stay tuned for more info about the current crop of trans/GNC delegates, info about their races, and how you can support them. Posted on July 20, 2020July 20, 2020 COVID WASH: NEW PIECE ON PATREON I’m not managing to write very much – same thoughts over & over, to be honest, most days – but a kind gesture by a friend causes me to write this piece. Here’s an excerpt (and a new photo taken by my very talented wife). https://www.patreon.com/posts/39531710 _There are moments in this pandemic when the enormity of it all hits you for a second. It’s usually, for me, a banal moment when I’m telling my cat she has already had dinner or I’m trying to find a lighter or I’m pulling wet laundry out of the washing machine. My heart feels cold for a minute. My breath stops. An overwhelming feeling of nausea and dismay washes over me in a wave, a series of waves. I feel as if I’m about to vanish in a puff of smoke and then… it’s over again, and my hand is pulling on the wet towel that’s wrapped itself around the agitator. I can feel the cool sweat on my forehead or upper lip – evidence that something happened; my stomach clenches, and I cough or sigh to re start my breath because I’ve been holding it without realizing. It has passed, that feeling of dread, that panic attack, the nausea of this reality. It’s almost as if I’m not there for a minute or ten, and I don’t know how long I was gone. I don’t know why it hit just then, no matter what it was I was doing or saying or looking at. Like a wave picked me up and dropped me back down but not an ocean wave – instead a sinister wave of fear, death, panic, dread, sadness, grief, anger._ Posted on June 22, 2020 CHAMPION OF PRIDE 2020 This came as something of a surprise: me in a list of “champions of pride” in The Advocate.
Every year they name 104 activists, 2 from every state, and this year I’m one of Wisconsin’s. And it comes with a very nice photo taken by my awesome wife RachelCrowl, too.
Posted on June 22, 2020 TRANS MEDICAL CARE / ANXIETY I really do wish people understood the deep anxiety trans people & their families go through with medical care. I’m sitting here waiting for Rache to have a procedure done that they have to put her under for, & I’m sitting out here wondering why we don’t get to talk to any specialist about trans bodies and whether they’ve seen or worked with any before. And this is ME, people. Empowered trans advocate and educator for 20 years and I feel absolutely powerless and have to hope & have faith. And I know my wife well enough to know that she brought it up in the most charming way possible as they prepped her. We asked ahead of time & were reassured it’s in her chart. Great, sure. But do most specialists know what that means, what trans bodies can look like? Love to all the trans people, their partners and parents & care givers. It’s a fuck of a thing to have to worry about inexperience and/or transphobia during what should be a routine procedure. I’m sure she’ll be fine and I’m going to take some deep breathsright now.
It is hard to love someone who you know others hate just because of who they are and how their bodies are. & Fuck all of you who voted for Trump & these monsters who would encourage any medical personnel to not treat my beautiful wife withdignity & respect.
Posted on June 16, 2020June 16, 2020 BLACK AND QUEER: ORGS AND INDIVIDUALS I’ve been thinking a lot this month about queerness and de centering whiteness this month — someday I’ll have the energy to write moreabout it.
But what I have been doing is trying to focus on fundraising for some cool organizations and individuals who I personally know are doing great work. So here’s my short list. Donate if you can. * The Okra Project , a grassroots collective that combats food insecurity in the black transgender community, has launched two mental health recovery funds to provide black trans men and women sessions with a licensed black therapist, free of cost. Donate via their PayPal to either the Tony McDade fund (for black trans men) or the Nina Pop fund. * Monica Roberts is the Trans Griot, and she has been reporting on issues of black trans identity for decades. Here is a direct link to her blog. On the right is her tip jar.
Use it often and generously. * The Audre Lorde Project is a community organizing center focused on the needs of LGBT, GNC, Two Spirit POC. Donate here. * Brown Girl Recovery is a peer support, trauma focused organization “dedicated to community healing for femmes and folks of color” in the Bronx and uptown NYC. * SHEBA (Sisters Helping Each other Battle Adversity) is a group of 20 African American trans women that meets biweekly for leadership development, health promotion activities, and social support. They are supported by Diverse & Resilient, and you can donatethrough them.
Posted on May 24, 2020May 24, 2020100,000.
100,000.
_The New York Times_ has their front page ready for tomorrow, when we hit that number: six columns of names, places, some brief phrase culled from the person’s obituary.
There are no images, just names. It’s powerful and provocative and is the first thing I’ve seen that tries to present to us what we’re living through. I wish they had given their entire Sunday paper over to the whole of it, to print every single one of these 100,000 names, with the sparest of details – name, place, phrase – and if they had, the Sunday edition of _The New York Times_ would be 100 pages long — and have nothing in it but them. I wish they had because I think we need to understand, to try to understand, to try to grapple with what we are living through. This is the equivalent of one person dying every minute of every day for 70 days straight. This is the equivalent of a person dying every second of every hour of every day for a month. When do we get to mourn as a nation? When will people stop arguing about wearing masks? When will people take a minute to realize what has happened, how many families are grieving, how many lives are lost? When do we stop caring about how bored we are? For 20 years we have recited the names of the nearly 4000 who died that Tuesday in NY & PA. It takes nearly 4 hours. This list would take nearly 100 hours to read, or 4 days, readingnon stop.
How will we grieve this? What is even possible? Since our minds can’t make sense of it, there is no ritual that would satisfy the requirements of loss at so great a scale. We can’t make sure every family, every person who was lost, finally gets their memorial, their moment in time, their celebration of life. No, the reality is that they have died watery deaths – no body, no memorial, no gathering,no last rites.
And that is not the beginning of what is horrible about any of this. Today I will not murk the loss and sadness and grief with finger pointing or mockery of our leadership. I will do that on another day, at another time, and I sure as fuck will do that in November. Right now I just want to contemplate what it means to live in a culture where a hundred thousand families can’t grieve with each other and instead we’re arguing about masks and so called freedom, where healthcare workers are being accused of villainy orconspiracy.
Right now I just want to say: turn it off. Turn off all the social media. Forget the sarcasm, and the clever “coronavirus likes this” image, the innumerable clever gifs, the everything. But my god, especially the funny. This is no time for scoring a point or havingthe right emoticon.
This is only a time for grief: collective, wailing, keening, uncategorizable, overwhelming grief. Sit with it. Light a candle. Say a prayer. Pet a cat. Throw a ball. But remember, with the whole of you, how many people are missing that person they said the prayer for, the pet they loved together, the games they saw together. We will, I predict, become 80x more callous than we are today if wedon’t.
So sit with it. Let your humanity light up a minute of your life. For once in your life, be uncomfortable. Try to reconcile the irreconcilable and fail. Imagine the one loss, or two, or twelve that you’ve experienced. Remember in your guts how it felt, in yourhead.
There is no way for us to reconcile this loss, to respect it, to grieve it. We could be silent for a month, not talk for a month, maybe. We could light 100,000 candles and still not understand, because every grief, every loss, is inconsolable. Anyone who has lost someone important knows this; everyone who has cried and not slept or slept too much or drank too much or not eaten or eaten too much knowsthis.
We all know what this loss means, what it is, why it hurts, or we all could, if we stopped, stopped everything, stopped arguing, stopped posting, stopped worrying.Grieve with me.
Take those four days – the days it would take to read their names out loud – and just grieve. I don’t know when my four days will happen, but that’s what I’m going to do: no talking, only fasting, only prayer. I think I’ll start the morning after we officially hit 100,000 so that I can tie up loose ends and put up an automatic reply to my email and a note on Facebook because those are the concessions the living demand. Join me. Let the world go dark for a minute for these, our one hundredthousand dead.
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